Stop Should-ing On Yourself

Does this sound familiar? I feel like I should have the house, the marriage, the kids by now. I should be further along in my career. I should have settled down, but I’m non-committal.

I have spent my whole life doing what I should. Now the kids have left home and I don’t know what I should be doing – working hard for retirement I guess.

Or the hardest one of all: I have done absolutely everything I should have done but it still crumbled around me and left me feeling unfulfilled. Now I have to rebuild and I don’t know what I should do…

“I should have/be/do x, y, z” says, “I am not enough as I am. I don’t have it. I can’t do it.”

Deep down, there’s a part of you that knows having those things won’t really make you happy.

When your base belief is “I am not enough,” it often comes with feeling uninspired, empty, lonely and bland. You become victimised by the world around you and those well-meaning folks who say, “You just need to cheer up.”

We’re like a boat floating in a barren sea. We know what land should look like, we’ve walked on it before, but it’s not our current reality. The ocean beneath us is too deep to set an anchor. The wind blows in all directions around us and the current swirls but we don’t know where to set a course. We’re scared all we’ll find is more endless water.

The truth is, we’ve forgotten who we are, we’ve forgotten we already have everything we need to be successful.

We are enough.

We are naturally creative, resourceful and whole.

So how do we stop should-ing on ourselves? We create.

Create. Because there's more to life than doing what you should.
This picture has a black and white 'American Dream' house with white picket fence. Bursting out of it is colourful swirls and stars and dots like fireworks.

When you create, you take action. By taking action, you become the Hero you’ve been waiting for.

When you create, you tap into your deep, primal motivations, values and desires.

When you create, you challenge resistence and fear head on and realise you’ve got this.

When you create, you replace bland boredom with wild colour.

When you create, you imagine, dream, experience the life you want through your creation.

“But I don’t know how to create,” you cry. “I’m not creative.”

But you are, as you are enough. As a child you played and created. She is still within you, the compass that can guide you to unbelievable shores, regardless of the gales and storms you encounter. The horizon tricks you into thinking you’re not making progress, but when you create, you start moving at warp speed towards your dreams.

No one said it would be easy. No one said you will be perfect and worshipped for your handicraft. But you will make progress and you will gain clarity.

Let me help you to create. Let me help you to discover your true sparkling self. Let me help you to dream what you truely desire.

I want to hear from you!

If this has resonated with you, please get in touch. It is an invest in yourself, it’s the first step to believing in your powerful creativity. You have a choice in this.

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Published by hfitzgibbonnz

Firstly, thank you so much for checking out my site. My work is intended as a gift and share it as I work toward a new level of bravery. The art is hand-drawn (mostly). It will have mistakes and asymmetry but it is honest and human. I am a wife and mother, an explorer, a wanderer, an investigator, an artist - driven by curiosity and an unquenchable desire to learn. We are in a very special part of this journey in that this blog is young and small. You're here, on the ground floor. I'd love to meet you - please get in touch and let me know a little about yourself. What do you wish you learned in school?

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