I am making a big change. I have left my job and now I work for myself.
A big change calls for some solid beliefs. You see, what we think and how we see the world informs our brain what to focus on. Our brain then creates bias and looks for evidence in our life and those around us to reinforce our beliefs. These are called limiting beliefs.
We all have limiting beliefs that inform our decisions based on our internal world view. Many of these bubble under the surface and have been given to us by our parents, culture and environment since we were babies. We probably don’t even notice them most of the time because these beliefs are so solid that our world already aligns to them.
For example, if I believe that having a job provides security, then I likely have other friends in stable employment and stick with my employer for many years in alignment with this belief. When people say the word ‘entrepreneur’ I probably conjure up images of tech giants in Silicon Valley with millions of dollars in capital – good for them, I would think but it’s not the reality for most of us. I might even say, “I will never work for myself – that’s too risky”. My thoughts, bias and environment support this belief so I have no cause to question it. Until I get laid off (or in my case, hear something to challenge my concept of the future of work).
Major change (whether by choice or not) creates conflict between your reality and your beliefs. When our thoughts are in conflict with our beliefs, the initial response from our brain is to provide resistance in the form of fear and self-doubt.
Your brain doesn’t like change. It wants to keep you safe. It doesn’t want to rock the boat. What we have is working pretty well isn’t it? It takes a lot of hard work to rewire a belief.
Rather than have these thoughts scare us back into alignment, we need to adjust our belief first in order to open up a new reality inline with our goals.
In his best-selling book Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill states:
“The time to nurse an idea is at the beginning of its birth. Every minute it lives gives it a better chance of surviving”.
He’s talking about building confidence to overcome this initial resistance. It won’t be scary forever (although it definitely feels that way at the beginning).
That’s how we adjust our limiting beliefs – we don’t battle our fears head on. Rather we thank them for doing their job, tell them a piece of evidence that proves we’ve got this and gently move past the fear to build a little confidence. Each time the confidence grows, the fear gets a little quieter and before long we don’t hear that resistance anymore because our new belief is solid and our mind is now working on aligning to that reality. It seeks out new prejudices to confirm your belief and next minute you’re living your dream.
Here’s how it looks for me:
I started thinking about working for myself. I never thought I would do this. This was in conflict with my belief and I felt scared to try. I had a lot of excuses and procrastinated. But I looked for reasons to undermine my current belief and prove my new belief instead. I noticed that my work world was going through major change and people were losing their jobs. I noticed that many of my friends and community members already worked for themselves. I questions the assumption that there is not support in a small town and realised that there are funded development courses for entrepreneurs. I was blown away at the amount of evidence I found to support my new belief that working for myself was entirely possible and I could be a success.
I have saved, I have woken up early, started sharing this blog – all to quiet the resistance into submitting to my goal of working for myself. And it’s happening. Last week I finished my old job. Within the year, my business will be turning a profit and covering my living expenses. I’ll share more about my business in future posts.
Do you have a belief that’s holding you back from reaching a goal? Can you find an example in your own world or the world around you that disproves this belief and affirms your goal is possible?